From time to time, many of us have difficulty remembering names and other details about people we've just met -- at networking events or elsewhere.
I've been blessed with very good memory, and sometimes I too forget names of people a few seconds after we've been introduced. How embarrassing!
A common suggestion is that you repeat the person's name many times so you remember it.
However, I have found that this technique doesn't always work.
Do you know why this is?
Because, while my mouth is talking, my mind is elsewhere. So the name that I've just repeated 17 times never really registered!
If you often have difficulty recalling someone's name seconds after you hear it, don't despair -- it's not because your memory is bad.
It's probably because your mind was elsewhere. You were probably spacing out, or rehearsing what to say next, or wondering how to make a good impression, or something along these lines.
What's the solution, then?
Simple really -- just pay attention. In other words, stay present and truly participate in the conversation.
We remember things that are important and interesting to us -- no matter how trivial.
So when you're able to stay present, you give yourself a chance to really listen. And when you listen without getting distracted, you retain what's important and relevant for you without even trying.
Check it out, and I think you'll find that this statement to be true in your life as well.
And how do you stay present and focused?
Just practice.
Practice bringing yourself back to the conversation every time you drift away.
Simple ways to practice staying focused during conversations is covered in module 3 of the Effortless Networking home-study program. For details see below.
